Treat Ladies Right, part 2: Encourage and Honor Women

So in my post a couple of days ago I dug into the idea that one of the best things that I can do to treat women right is to be a solid guy myself.  The reason for this is that everything in this post will fall completely flat if I’m not a solid dude.  All of the encouraging actions and conversations will ring hollow if they’re not spoken from a godly mindset.  I’ve found that in the past I’ve tried to sharpen my sisters and been met with either rejection or frustration because I offered those compliments out of a manipulative or self-serving mindset.  I now know that my heart must be prepared and Christ-focused if I am to serve my sisters well.  So, that said, what follows is a distillation of my experience as a single guy trying to encourage my sisters in the faith. Continue reading

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Treat Ladies Right, part 1: Be a Solid Guy

Following from my last post, I have had a ton of conversations in the last ten years about courtship, dating, and almost everything having to do with relationships.  While I am far from an expert on the subject of how men and women should relate to each other, I figured I’d air out some of my thoughts here to see what you think, and hopefully start a useful conversation.  What follows is a collection of take-aways from those many conversations, and I am much indebted to my friends, pastors, and mentors for sharpening me in this specific area of my walk with Christ.

I will address the men first. Continue reading

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I honestly don’t know how many articles, books, videos, sermons, talks, and coffee-in-hand discussions I’ve consumed that have something to do with the topic of singleness-in-preparation-for-marriage.  But I can definitely tell you it’s a lot.

I can also tell you that my personality lends itself to obsessing over things in my darker times – and therefore I have spent many hours thinking and praying and worrying and overanalyzing and self-deprecating on a myriad of topics associated with my singleness.  From the hopelessly arrogant “How come they can’t realize that I actually am Mr. Darcy’s personality type?” [INTJ, by the way] to the sinfully presumptive “I’ll just do my own thing and not look around at all until God just sticks her right in front of me.”  The only trouble with those two thoughts is that first, Mr. Darcy is a fictional character dreamed up by Jane Austen, and I am hardly worth ten thousand pounds a year.  Second, I am trusting for God to provide a wife, true… but I am also trusting that he provides me food, and I don’t just pine away on my couch waiting for him to plunk down a pot roast or some oreos and milk (… mmm, oreos).  I go out and hit up the drive-thru get some food from the store and cook it at home.  Anyway, I could go on and on, but that’s not the point here. Continue reading

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Texas Independence Day – This Day in History, March 2nd

Today is a very special day: the 175th anniversary of Texas Independence Day.  Therefore, out of reverence for my home state, I would like to share a bit of cool history (this is not an oxymoron) with you.

In 1836 Texas was embroiled in a several-year-long struggle with the Mexican Government, mostly involving the dramatic dictatorial centralization of the Mexican federal government under Antonio Lopez de Santa Anna.  Shots were first fired in Gonzales in October of 1835, but in the first couple of months of 1836 Santa Anna marched the Mexican military into Texas, bent on crushing this runaway rebellion led by ‘Texican’ immigrants.  As he marched toward San Antonio de Bexar (modern day San Antonio), a band of some 180 volunteers gathered at the Mission San Antonio de Valero – now known as the Alamo to fend off the approaching Mexican forces, which outnumbered them at least ten to one.  The ensuing thirteen-day siege of the Alamo began February 23, 1836 and lasted until the final assault on March 6th.

On March 1st during that fateful siege, a delegation of leaders met at what would become the first capital of the Republic of Texas – Washington on the Brazos.  Though preceded by months of debate and disagreement over how to respond to the increasingly tyrannical Mexican government, a Declaration of Independence was drafted and officially signed by all 59 delegates on March 2nd, officially establishing the Republic of Texas – David G. Burnet would serve interim president.  Two days later Sam Houston would be appointed commander of the Texas Army and would lead his forces in the Runaway Scrape following the fall of the Alamo until the fateful battle at San Jacinto.

Houston would go on to become the first elected president of the Republic of Texas in December 1836, and would serve several more terms as president, state governor, and U.S. senator following Texas’ annexation into the United States.

The Republic of Texas existed just shy of a decade – from March 1836 to late December 1845, when the United States approved its annexation as the 28th state in the union.

So join me in celebrating a unique and very special piece of history today.  Eat a steak, drive a truck, say y’all… whatever you do, wherever you live, have a happy Texas Independence Day.

If you want to read more, check out these links:

Convention of 1836 (where the Declaration was signed):

Texas Declaration of Independence:

Timeline of the Texas Revolution:

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